Community Guidelines

Effective Date: May 23, 2026

What we are trying to make here

Asaya is for people who want to meet one another with some depth, some curiosity, and some realness.

We assume that if you are here, you already understand most of what makes a space feel good to be in. You know the difference between honesty and performance. Between flirtation and pressure. Between discernment and dismissal. Between a moment that opens and a moment that closes.

These guidelines are here to make the shared standard visible.

Be sincere

Present yourself in a way that is recognizably you.

Use current photos. Keep your age and identity accurate. Do not impersonate other people, create deceptive accounts, or mislead others about who they are meeting.

Be considerate

Treat other people as people.

Most of the tone of a community is created one interaction at a time. Be direct without being unkind. Express interest without entitlement.

Not every exchange will lead somewhere. That is part of dating. How you handle that matters.

Respect pace and mutuality

Good connection has a rhythm to it.

Pay attention to whether the other person is actually joining you in the kind of conversation or energy you are bringing. Sexual or deeply intimate conversation should feel mutual, not imposed. Repeated contact after a clear no, or pressure after hesitation, changes the quality of an interaction immediately.

A useful rule of thumb is simple: if something depends on another person’s willingness, look for willingness.

Keep the space hospitable

Asaya is not a place for slurs, demeaning stereotypes, or hostility toward people on the basis of identity.

That includes racism, antisemitism, Islamophobia, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, and related forms of contempt.

People will have preferences. That is ordinary. The line is crossed when preference becomes disrespect.

Respect privacy

Treat what is shared here with care.

Do not expose other people’s private conversations, images, identifying details, or vulnerable disclosures in ways that embarrass, punish, or endanger them. Privacy is part of what makes candor possible.

Safety and Enforcement Policy

The spirit above is gentle. The standards below are not.

The following conduct is prohibited on Asaya, whether it occurs on the app, through information obtained from the app, or in connection with an Asaya event or match. Reports are reviewed, harmful conduct is acted on, blocks and reports are encouraged, and consequences can range from warnings to permanent bans.

  1. Deception and impersonation

    You may not impersonate another person, use materially misleading photos, falsify core identity details, operate fake accounts, or otherwise deceive users about who they are interacting with.

  2. Harassment and coercion

    You may not harass, intimidate, badger, shame, pressure, or repeatedly contact another person after they have indicated disinterest or asked for distance. You may not use guilt, fear, leverage, or persistence to force attention, conversation, intimacy, or a meeting.

  3. Sexual misconduct

    Unwanted sexual remarks, sexual harassment, unwanted explicit content, pressure for sexual activity, requests for sexual content after refusal, and any sexual behavior that disregards consent are prohibited.

  4. Threats, stalking, and violent behavior

    You may not threaten violence, incite harm, stalk, dox, blackmail, monitor, or use Asaya or Asaya-derived information to make another person feel unsafe on or off platform. We prohibit threats, intimidation, and conduct suggesting or causing harm online or offline, and absolutely prohibit violent content or behavior.

  5. Hate and degrading conduct

    Slurs, hate speech, dehumanizing language, identity-based harassment, and content that promotes exclusion or degradation on the basis of race, ethnicity, nationality, religion, disability, gender, gender identity, or sexual orientation are prohibited.

  6. Privacy violations

    You may not publish or circulate private messages, intimate images, identifying details, or personal disclosures without consent where doing so exposes, humiliates, retaliates against, or endangers another person.

  7. Scams, spam, and exploitative use

    Asaya may not be used for scams, fraud, phishing, financial solicitation schemes, spam, follower harvesting, or unrelated commercial promotion.

  8. Violent or graphic content

    Graphic violence, celebration of cruelty, abuse-focused content, or imagery intended to shock or terrorize is prohibited.

  9. Adults only

    You must be at least 18 years old to use Asaya.

  10. Evasion of safety measures

    You may not attempt to bypass a block, recreate an account after suspension or removal, evade moderation, or use alternate accounts or channels to continue prohibited contact.

Reports and review

Users may report content or conduct that appears deceptive, coercive, threatening, hateful, sexually inappropriate, exploitative, or otherwise unsafe. We review reports with context and judgment. We do not assume every report proves misconduct, but we also do not ignore patterns.

Enforcement actions

Depending on severity, pattern, and risk, Asaya may remove content, issue a warning, restrict account features, suspend an account, remove a user from the platform, remove a user from events, or refer a matter to law enforcement where appropriate.

Serious violations

Conduct involving violence, threats of violence, stalking, coercive sexual behavior, sexual exploitation, credible safety risk, or severe identity-based abuse may result in immediate removal.